According to relationship expert Stephen Hussey, the attraction formula looks like this:
Visual Chemistry + Emotional Connection + Perceived Value + Perceived Challenge = Attraction
But how can you apply this formula in your love life when you are looking to date Russian ladies? Let’s find it out now!
Stay ready and always be prepared.
Don’t save your best outfit for important occasions. Wear it today! Do it now! Manufacture visual chemistry! When you stay ready, you don’t need to get ready anymore. You never know when the love of your life will rock up.
It’s your job to create chances. For instance, you can go to a venue where Russian women congregate. You can also join an international dating website which introduces single Russian ladies to western men. It’s your responsibility to create a life you want first. You don’t know it unless you do it.
Turn knowledge from what you’ve learned on this blog to action.
Build deep emotional connection with your Russian girlfriend.
Perhaps you know the analogy regarding the rider and the elephant.
In business and career, you should switch on the rider. Use logic, facts, information and data to work on projects. Be rational.
In your love life, you should switch on the elephant because dating and relationships are all about how you feel – become engaging, warm and loving. Connect with your Russian lady emotionally.
Seek first to understand, then to be understood. Emotional connection is all about authenticity. Always remember the concept of reciprocity: We have to bring what we seek from somebody else. We have to bring it first.
If you don’t know a Russian lady very well yet, you can invest and test. Give her value and see whether she reciprocates or not. If she does, she is a good woman from Russia.
Don’t expect someone else’s something that you are not giving right now. In love, you can only get what you give. If you don’t take action, nothing is going to change.
When you are still looking for a Russian lady, you should be less picky at this stage in terms of who to talk to. But when you decide who to have a relationship with, you have to be pickier because a long-term relationship has to be serious and meaningful.
You create choices because you take action, not because the destiny gives you a big break.
Increase your perceived value like a pro.
When you have options, your perceived value is higher. In other words, if many women want to date you, you look like a high-value man.
Therefore, it’s important to create rituals to meet more women. Perhaps you can go to the place where women have lunch. Go at the busiest time for selection. When you go shopping in the supermarket, your trolley is your wingman – your trolley “accidentally” touches a beautiful woman’s back and you apologize to her, thereby starting a conversation.
Apart from that, when you have many high-value male friends, your perceived value is also higher, as the third-party review is hard to fake: If many successful men want to be your friends, that means you must be a successful man as well! Russian women are smart, so they will figure you are a high-value man.
Also, your successful male friends are probably dating very attractive women, so when your Russian lady meets those pretty women, she will realize that your social circle is high-quality. That will further increase your perceived value.
Increase your perceived challenge under the radar.
Flirting with Russian ladies increases your perceived challenge in a subtle way. Sometimes, the extra 5% is exactly where flirting starts. You can put yourself on a Russian woman’s radar while striking a balance between showing interest in her and challenge.
Flirting is moving things forward. You can build the scene by saying, “Yes, and…” rather than “No, but…”.
You can flirt with whoever you like, but you should only date women that you actually admire and respect. There is a difference between liking someone and respecting someone. Women from Russia expect your respect at all times.
Be sure of yourself because certainty is very attractive and sexy. Let’s have a look at this example below.
YOU: “I have been texting you.”
HER: “Did you miss me?”
YOU: “You are cute, but I’m not allowed to text you right now.” (Wink at her).
When you say “you are cute”, you indicate your interest in her. When you say “I’m not allowed to text you now”, you indicate perceived challenge!
By the way, you should value investment as much as value chemistry. In other words, if the chemistry has a capital C between you and a lady from Russia, you also need to evaluate how much she invests in you – Does she text you? Does she respect you? Does she appreciate you?
If you are attracted to a Russian woman, she must absolutely adore you. Otherwise, she is not the one.
Once she behaves badly, you create some space. She has to build some credit again, and then you will deposit trust in the bank.
When you are at the flirting stage, you should have options, because making a decision out of scarcity means it’s a bad decision. In contrast, making a decision out of choice means it’s probably a very good decision.
Remember: Flirting is also about not always being nice, not being people-pleasing.
Always choose being respected rather than being liked, and then you will become a truly desirable man that Russian ladies admire and respect.
Apart from building rapport, you also have to learn breaking rapport occasionally so that you can keep flirting with her. That means you should disagree with her at times. Then when you agree with something, it becomes more powerful.
Expanding your network doesn’t equal letting people in. Yes, you should have options, but it doesn’t necessarily mean you should build relationships with everyone.
A high-value man cuts it fast when he sees a red flag. Don’t ignore things when you see things. People tend to show you who they are pretty quickly.
Remember these suggestions, and then put your seatbelt on and enjoy dating.
Moreover, dates should not go on for hours. If you are dating a Russian lady, the first date should be somewhere between 45 minutes and 60 minutes, for the first date is about showing small information. Then the second date should be somewhere between 60 minutes and 90 minutes as this is when you unfold the story. When a date lasts for more than 2 hours, the anticipation is gone. However, when a date is shorter than 1.5 hours, you always build the anticipation for the next date! So, you should totally stop the party at its top or climax!
“Leave her wanting more; short and fun dates increase perceived value and perceived challenge.”