When you explore international dating, you probably would read dating books and articles to improve your dating skills. Most people don’t know that dating is a skill which can be learned, so if you bring up this topic while chatting with your friends, they might question what you are learning. Consequently, learning a new skill may become an isolating experience. Today in this article, I’m going to share my take on this topic with you here.

  • Why aren’t your friends supportive when you are evolving?

“I have started to learn dating skills in order to improve my love life, so I have to spend most of my time every weekend reading relevant articles and books. Also, I practice the techniques that I’ve learned in my daily life,” says Tommy, “But when I talk about what I’m learning and practicing with my friends, none of them is supportive. What should I do?”

This is actually not an uncommon question because when you prioritize personal development, your friends probably don’t like the change – it’s a threat to their ego/self-esteem/paradigm in the world.

No, you don’t need to get rid of your friends if you are in Tommy’s situation. What you can do is do what you believe in and then spend less time with friends who are not supportive. Become less available.

You can start to find some new friends and grow your social circle. Remember: You actually need people who don’t share the same interests with you in your life because if everyone in your social circle is only passionate about dating skills, you won’t be able to have interesting conversations with women that you meet – Obviously, you probably wouldn’t talk about dating skills with women that you would like to date, so you need to have other engaging topics.

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  • The power of being a multi-dimensional guy:

Speaking of international dating, you would be well-advised to be a multi-dimensional guy so that you can have various topics to discuss with your partner. She will find you fascinating!

Note that women don’t find one-dimensional men attractive – a one-dimensional man is too boring.

Therefore, you should totally have friends from different industries who bring different value/perspectives to your life.

So, my advice for you is to keep your friends, find new friends and spend more time with friends that make you happy & satisfied.

Truthfully, in life, not everything needs to be shared with someone else. It’s absolutely okay to have a passion that only you enjoy. If only you like working on your international dating skills in your social circle, that’s fine. You need some ‘me time’ anyway – why not spend your ‘me time’ reading this blog? 😉

“It turns out that friendship and growth can become incompatible at times, so you need a strategy to navigate the change.”