“I can’t stop thinking about my ex,” says Leo, “We broke up last month. Now Valentine’s Day is drawing near, and I’m still in pain. Can you tell me how to get over the breakup?”  

  • How to survive Valentine’s Day after a breakup:

While dealing with a breakup, Leo experiences waves of feeling – it’s not just one moment of pain. Leo’s situation is not uncommon. If you are also wondering how to survive Valetine’s Day after a recent breakup, I’m sure my advice in this article will help you feel much better.

Perhaps you don’t think you will find a woman that great again. And you may even think if you had done certain things differently, that relationship would have worked out perfectly okay. I’d like to let you know that feelings of regret are absolutely normal because it’s a part of this process. Having said that, you broke up for a reason.  Now I’d like you to surround yourself with those who look after your wellbeing. In addition, please write a list of the things that you didn’t get in your previous relationship. For example, Leo’s list looks like this: 1) love; 2) respect; 3) intimacy; 4) honesty; 5) emotional connection. My advice for Leo is to return to his list as frequently as needed. 

If you don’t know exactly what to write on your list, please answer these questions: A) What crossed your boundary? B) What violated your standards? C) What ruined your self-respect? D) What behavior did you find disrespectful or unacceptable? E) What made you feel worse emotionally in that relationship? F) What directly made you leave that relationship? G) What indirectly made you leave that relationship?  

Clearly, your ex didn’t offer you the most important foundations of a long-term relationship. If she did, you wouldn’t wonder how to survive Valetine’s Day alone right now. Remember that you need a woman who shows up consistently for you at all times.

Please note that a lot of single women feel lonely when Valetine’s Day is coming, so they would join online dating sites in February. So, now it’s the best time to join a dating website and see who you will meet.

  • It’s time to give yourself the permission to look for new connections. 

Do give yourself some time to find new connections. These connections don’t have to be romantic. Simply get out of our own bubble and see who enters your world. Note that if you are careless, a recent breakup could become your current world, and you can’t let that happen.  

What’s more, the pain you feel right now is fear as well. I understand that the pain doesn’t seem to go away quickly. However, you must remind yourself that things will change over time as life is a combination of amazing things and challenges.

In fact, there are different areas of life that could make you truly satisfied and happy. Therefore, you would be ill-advised to believe that only a good love life can make you smile. 

Interestingly, when you start to explore other adventures and work on other areas of your life, your love life will improve, too, because other areas of your life are equally important – they nourish you. As a result, you become a more confident man who attracts women organically. Why not try online dating today?

“Online dating is the best way to meet people that you wouldn’t meet in your current social circle.”