A lot of books on dating and relationships tell you how to create positive emotions, which is valid and necessary. However, I would argue that avoiding all negative emotions is a bad strategy. Please let me explain.

  • Should nice guys finish last?

Yes, because nice guys are boring, dull and predictable. 

Okay. Here is the rationale: There is a fundamental difference between ‘kind’ and ‘nice’. ‘Kind’ is a beautiful quality that we all respect, but ‘nice’ is more about trying not to offend anyone in order to be liked by everyone.

In the science of attraction, negative emotions and tension can balance out positive interest. When there are some sort of negative emotions in the dynamics, a woman has to earn the positivity. Note that people value what is earned & devalue what is given freely and unconditionally. In other words, if she has to earn the positive vibe to some degree, she values what she gets even more.

Indeed, negative emotions offer a more meaningful and fuller experience, and women like men who provide them with a full emotional experience. 

Therefore, if you would like to meet and date an Eastern European woman, you don’t have to make everything 100% perfect and every moment 100% blissful. You should totally relax and be genuine. Perfection doesn’t exist and it’s not even good for you anyway.

Eastern European woman

  • You can’t “nice” an Eastern European woman into a relationship.

If you would like to marry a high-value Eastern European woman, you have to have core confidence as well as emotional independence because being “nice” is a terrible strategy. But where do core confidence and emotional independence come from?

As I see it, you must have other priorities in life, e.g., your career, your hobbies, your family and friends, and so forth. Other areas of your life are just as important as your love life.

When she knows that you have other priorities in your life, she begins to obsess over you because she wants to find out how to make herself your No. 1 priority. Again, here is your principle: Other areas of your life are just as paramount as your love life, so your health, wealth, social life, etc. can’t be ignored just because you have a romantic partner. When you have a partner, you still have to look after other areas of life, which is the best way to give you core confidence and emotional independence. And that’s exactly how you make your partner obsessed with you.

“If a movie has no tension, no negative emotion and only positive aspects, you wouldn’t find the movie captivating. That’s why negative emotions aren’t bad – they give people a fuller experience.”