On the first date, you are supposed to be confident, abundant and fun. That’s the best way to get rid of the scarcity mindset in international dating. In this article, I’m going to discuss how to introduce more fun into your dates so that you won’t be nervous on the very first date.

⦁ Please embody these qualities on your first date: You’re an abundant, fun and confident guy.

The key to a successful first date is to introduce playfulness into the date. When you are fond of amusements, you are light-hearted and playful; therefore, you wouldn’t feel nervous on the date. Note that the first date is just an opportunity to give her a break from the dull daily routine, so you are supposed to have fun.

What’s more, on a much deeper level, being playful on the first date directly demonstrates that you are not thinking about the outcome only because you are not driven by a scarcity mindset. Indeed, if you are able to joke around, be relaxed and express your character on the first date, you are literally showing her that you aren’t really fixed on the outcome for one date. You are supposed to express your personality on the very first date instead of walking on eggshells, as you aren’t worried about being rejected by her.

A modern man who has confidence and abundance is living in the moment. He is enjoying himself. He is spontaneous. He embraces international dating confidently.

In contrast, if you strongly believe that this date is the only opportunity for you to impress a woman that you like, your scarcity mindset will possibly make you feel quite tense to her. Ironically, that vibe won’t help you to attract her at all.

Realistically, playfulness takes the pressure away on the first date. I’m pretty sure that the lady will read your humor as a great indicator that you are open to exploring this exciting connection; however, now you haven’t got a solid conclusion regarding where this connection will go yet. Truthfully, the first date is just Step One. She hasn’t even proven herself to you yet. Can she meet your standards?

⦁ How to bring more fun into the first date:

First of all, you can disagree with her playfully. When you are willing to disagree with her, you are telling her that you value yourself because you aren’t a ‘yes man’. Remember: High-value women don’t want to date their fans; they want to date their equals. Therefore, please don’t fawn over everything about her. A high-value woman wants to date someone who is ‘whole’ with or without a woman. She likes the spark of joking around about your similarities and differences. If you are a ‘yes man’, you don’t have perceived challenge, so you’d better make her feel excited while she is getting to know who you are.

Please note that you just need to express yourself in a playful manner without criticizing her or being opinionated. For example, you can say things like, “I must convince you to visit Thailand one day.” / “We are very different.” / “Because you are a well-organized person, I have to bring you the unexpected spontaneity that you need.”

Second, you can be confident and self-deprecating at the same time. By that I mean you should have some surface level self-deprecating while maintaining deep level confidence. For instance, you might be awkward / nervous on the first date or something goes wrong on the date. Instead of keeping it to yourself completely, you might as well tell her exactly what you are feeling while laughing at yourself. Be sure to demonstrate a good sense of humor without turning the date into a therapy session because she is obviously not your therapist!

Here are some examples that can show you are able to be self-deprecating and confident at the same time: “This question makes me slightly nervous.” / “That was very awkward, please don’t tell your friends about this part.” / “All right. That proves my math sucks again.” – while you are mismatching your emotions with your words, you are self-deprecating in the right way, i.e., your words sound underconfident, yet when it’s delivered in a humorous manner, your words are showing her that you are an attractive, confident and authentic man.

“Frankly, dates can be a very good form of escapism for a lot of people; thus, you are allowed to gamify the first date by telling her more jokes. I’m sure you will enjoy international dating even more by doing that.”