When you meet a woman, you probably would ask her some questions to know more about her. If you’ve worked in sales before, perhaps you know you should ask more open-ended question so that she can’t give you ‘yes’ or ‘no’ as a very simple answer. Therefore, maybe you would ask questions such as “Where are you from?” However, she will probably still give you one word as her answer, e.g., “Europe”. Consequently, it’s not really an open-ended question in this context. But how can you let your curiosity flow?

  • If you are looking for a long-term relationship, you’d better give her an opportunity to convey her personality.

Instead of asking “Where are you from?” which only leads to a one-word answer, you can say, “Tell me more about yourself. I’m curious.”

Now she can take this to a million different directions: she has a great opportunity to convey her attractive personality and give you a chance to understand her character. Then you will be able to evaluate whether she meets your standards for a long-term relationship or not.

Also, it’s okay to ask some off-the-wall questions such as “Do you prefer a live concert or a concert movie?” At least this question is more interesting than “How old are you?” (If you can’t stand the noise at live concerts and definitely prefer concert movies in the cinema, this question is actually very important to you.)

What’s more, you would be well-advised to screen candidates for the qualities that you want. For example, if you would like to date someone who has more traditional values, you may ask her, “What is your ideal relationship like?” Based on her description, you can figure out whether she has traditional values or not.

 

  • Is she too boring for you?

“Most women that I’ve met are so boring,” says Vincent, “They even told me that they are boring. They have no personality.”

“Don’t get that conclusion too quickly,” I explain what happened to him, “Usually, that happens only because you were having boring conversations with them. If they are keen to impress you, you will see their personality.”

Let’s have a look at the conversation below.

HIM: “What do you do?”

HER: “I’m a teacher.”

HIM: “How old are you?”

HER: “28.”

HIM: “What do you like doing after work?”

HER: “Nothing. I’m boring.”

In fact, this is not her fault. This is his fault because he doesn’t lead the conversation to interesting directions.

Remember: A man is supposed to be the leader in a long-term relationship.

Let me tell you a true story:

A few years ago, I went out for a coffee date with a woman, and we were having a good conversation. Suddenly, a guy who had been reading my articles online for a long time went to the café and said to me, “Oh, my goodness. I’ve been reading your articles on the Internet for years. Thank you so much for providing lots of valuable information and changing my life.”

After that guy left, my conversation with this woman became extraordinary because she was intrigued. She really conveyed her personality in front of me. That is to say, she became more interesting because I was interesting first.

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