When you meet a Russian lady and ask for her phone number, you may worry that she might not give you a real phone number or wouldn’t pick up the telephone when you really call her. That means you need to learn something before dating a Russian lady. In reality, some Russian women want to be very polite; consequently, they would give you a telephone number when you ask for it, yet some of them could be flake. Note that there is a difference between giving you a telephone number because a lady would like to be polite and giving you a telephone number because she truly would like to date you. Having said that, the majority of women from Russia are very honest people, so nine times out of ten, you don’t need to worry about flake phone numbers. But you may still read this article just in case.
How to avoid flake telephone numbers:
When a lady gives you a telephone number, call her now and see whether your telephone number appears on her cell phone. Tell this lady your name again to remind her that she needs to save your number as well. You may even ask her whether you can enter your cell phone number in her phone, too.
Alternatively, you might have an instant date with her then and there rather than postponing the date. You may suggest a coffee date so when you call her later, she will think about you.
When you’re not sure if this Russian lady is actually interested in you, you may do a low-pressure number closing, e.g. “My friends and I will have a party on Saturday. The venue is awesome, and I think you should come, too.” This is low-pressure, as the lady in front of you knows she is going to see you again when there are other individuals around. Or you can say, “Would you like to come to my Happy Hour at ABC pub? You can bring your friends with you so we will have a good time together.” Now she is more willing to say yes, for she knows she will not see you again all by herself. But if you notice that she is really attracted to you, you may do a high-pressure number closing, “Let’s have dinner at ABC restaurant tomorrow night” – now she knows it’s a real date.
How to contact a Russian woman after getting her phone number:
First, I don’t actually recommend phoning this lady now as most people feel a bit annoyed if you call them in today’s day and age – they are busy doing things and they don’t want to answer the phone. Most Russian ladies would respond better if you send them text messages, so they can respond to your messages when they have spare time.
Second, remember to text her twelve hours after you got her cell phone number (but no later than twenty-four hours). If you text her 20 minutes after getting her cell phone number, you look too needy. But if you wait for twelve hours, she is going to spend twelve hours thinking why you still haven’t contacted her yet. Nevertheless, please don’t wait for more than one day – if you wait for too long, she might not even remember your name or who you are.
Third, please don’t arrange a date in the first 3 messages. Although you can’t wait to see her again, you should be a high-value guy. Thus, patience is important. You might scare her if you arrange a date too soon, even if she is interested.
Next, remember to use your best English at all times and proof your messages before sending them. Don’t type “How R U?” Note that terrible English has no value. You don’t want to put off elegant ladies. Also, you’d better avoid smiley faces and “xoxo”. Though ladies may use these more frequently, you are not supposed to do it too often as you’re a mature, sophisticated and worldly guy.
What’s more, your text messages should be shorter than hers. In psychology, shorter messages indicate higher value. And please don’t use “!!!” and “???” in your text messages. “!” and “?” should be sufficient at the end of a sentence. You should be a very cool guy rather than an emotional drama queen.
If the Russian lady takes half an hour to respond to your message, you need to take more than half an hour to send a reply. If the lady does not even reply, please wait for a week at least and text her once again. If she still ignores your message, Just. Move. On.
While arranging a date via text messages, don’t type “Let’s meet at ABC coffeehouse at 4pm today.” Instead, you type, “Let’s meet at ABC coffeehouse at 4pm next Tuesday.” That’s because if you have spare time to see this lady too soon, it indicates you don’t have much going on in your personal life. You should look slightly busy or actually become busy, so you should arrange a later date. My advice is to avoid Friday / Saturday night at the initial stage, for she hasn’t even earned your most important social time right now. Also, don’t use a question when you ask her out. Rather than sending her this message, “Would you like to go to ABC coffeehouse with me at 4pm next Tuesday?”, you’ll send this message, “Let’s go to ABC coffeehouse at 4pm next Tuesday” – a statement is always more certain than a question. Certainty is powerful. Alternatively, you can look more relaxed and send this to her, “I’m going to ABC coffeehouse at 4pm next Tuesday, and I think you should come because the music there is amazing.”
If you have nothing interesting to say, don’t answer her boring questions like “How are you today?” Don’t answer all of her questions in a text message if she sends you at least 3 questions in one message. In this way, your response will keep the Russian lady thinking about you.
How to talk to a Russian woman on the telephone:
Some women from Russia might wonder why you don’t call her; hence, you should learn how to talk to elegant ladies on the phone in a safe way: The ideal time to call a lady from Russia is when you’re on your way somewhere. For instance, you’re on your way to the supermarket, so you spare 10 minutes to talk to her on the cell phone. You may end the telephone conversation fast, which presents a perceived challenge in front of her, thereby increasing your perceived value. Remember to end the telephone conversation before the lady from Russia would like to end it.
“Talking to an elegant lady on the phone is an art form. Once you’ve understood these principles and mastered the art of talking to a woman on the phone, you will stand out from the crowd.”