Do you have a joint vision that you share with her?
Show her a better model of marriage.
Your self-worth comes from unconditional self-love. What makes you worthy? Your traits lead to your achievements in life. Now the question is how to love yourself and how you perceive yourself.
The first half of a successful relationship is knowing how to treat someone else. The second part is having the courage to demand the treatment you want. Most people are good at one and not the other.
Perceived challenge is not giving yourself to someone whenever they want without them having committed. And there are four elements that create perceived challenge:
- Maintain the importance of other areas of your life until she proves her importance by her willful investments in you. Adjust the importance of the other areas of your life by how much she invests, not by how much you like her. You have to train your Russian lady when it comes to how to love you in the right ways.
- Make her view you as someone she has to attain. Go at your own pace in this relationship.
- Be able to break rapport with a woman in moments where you don’t agree with what she has said.
Grounding principles that everyone needs:
First and foremost, you must have standards. There really isn’t anything more important in showing your worth. Something that really increases both perceived challenge and perceived value is standards – showing someone has to live up to you.
In the second place, relationships are about consistency. One of the hardest things to do is to maintain the consistency of your loving actions in a relationship regardless of your mood. Your ability to maintain a certain level of energy, happiness, generosity and mood is key.
Thirdly, you have to be willing to do the work. Note that a relationship is hard work. It requires your effort.
Next, the way you make someone see you as long-term is by demonstrating you are not particularly interested in messing around. This shows your Russian bride that you are husband material. This also increases your perceived challenge as she has to earn her place in your future vision. You don’t have to explicitly say what you want, but this doesn’t mean you should shy away from the truth when it comes up.
Instead of asking your Russian wife to focus on you, focus on yourself. What turns a woman on about a high-value man is that he is independent of her. When a marriage becomes stale, the first thing you can do is to get that “spark” back to shift your focus and energy back onto yourself. You have to develop interests outside your wife. Russian ladies often find a man who has passionate interests and activities of his own to be more exciting. They don’t have to be things she is interested in necessarily. Please note that the more independent you are of her, the more interested she will be.
When a relationship becomes stale, you should alter the routine. It’s essential when renewing the mental challenge to alter the routine that she has become accustomed to. When the mental challenge is gone, the routine becomes predictable and she is on “automatic pilot”. Your Russian wife’s mind can drift elsewhere because she isn’t sufficiently stimulated by you. So, you have to let the stimulation continue.
“A sense of humor is a great quality. A sense of humor is more than just finding something funny to say; it’s about an individual’s composure.”