Instead of asking your Russian wife to focus on you, focus on yourself. What turns a woman on about a high-value man is that he is independent of her. When a marriage becomes stale, the first thing you can do is to get that “spark” back to shift your focus and energy back onto yourself. You have to develop interests outside your wife. Russian ladies often find a man who has passionate interests and activities of his own to be more exciting. They don’t have to be things she is interested in necessarily. Please note that the more independent you are of her, the more interested she will be.
When a relationship becomes stale, you should alter the routine. It’s essential when renewing the mental challenge to alter the routine that she has become accustomed to. When the mental challenge is gone, the routine becomes predictable and she is on “automatic pilot”. Your Russian wife’s mind can drift elsewhere because she isn’t sufficiently stimulated by you. So, you have to let the stimulation continue.
How to manage your relationship dynamics:
As Harry Truman once said, “If you can’t convince them, confuse them.” But how? By altering the pattern entirely. Give no attitude and no complaints. Instead of having a date night every Tuesday, make the schedule random. Random means your Russian wife shouldn’t be able to predict like clockwork when she will have a date night with you.
No matter you are dating or married, you have to renew the mental challenge and alter the pattern. Whenever your Russian wife seems complacent, just alter the pattern. Married women often wait for a man to come home from work. You may want to alter that pattern by asking her to meet you in a coffeehouse at 5:10pm.
Don’t give reward for bad behavior. Men often make the mistake of going down the beaten path of catering to a woman, even when feeling taken for granted.
She simply won’t respect a man who automatically goes into overdrive to please her. Sometimes changing the routine is a matter of changing the dinner agenda. At other times, it is a matter of changing the times or dates of your little rendezvous.
Don’t tell her your whereabouts for every moment of the day. If she calls you on your cell phone, don’t always rush to pick up. If she calls on the phone, don’t go out of your way to answer it. Let her leave a message. If you live together, leave and go have some fun. And stay out a couple of hours longer than she expected. If she always expects you home at a certain time, come home a little later. The second your Russian lady doesn’t know where her man is, she will come looking for you. She has an inborn drive that is very territorial over you. But if you try too hard, you won’t tap that hunger. She will be satiated and that means you won’t leave her wanting more. Often the best way to adjust or fix a problem is by not letting her know it’s being fixed. When you alter your availability or change a predictable pattern or routine, it will mentally pull her back in.
The Rider VS the Elephant:
Perhaps you know the analogy regarding the rider and the elephant.
In business and career, you should switch on the rider. Use logic, facts, information and data to work on projects. Be rational.
In your love life, you should switch on the elephant because dating and relationships are all about how you feel – become engaging, warm and loving. Connect with your Russian lady emotionally.
Seek first to understand, then to be understood. Emotional connection is all about authenticity. Always remember the concept of reciprocity: We have to bring what we seek from somebody else. We have to bring it first.
If you don’t know a Russian lady very well yet, you can invest and test. Give her value and see whether she reciprocates or not. If she does, she is a good woman from Russia.
Don’t expect someone else’s something that you are not giving right now. In love, you can only get what you give. If you don’t take action, nothing is going to change. When you are still looking for a Russian lady, you should be less picky at this stage in terms of who to talk to. But when you decide who to have a relationship with, you have to be pickier because a long-term relationship has to be serious and meaningful.
“You create choices because you take action, not because the destiny gives you a big break.”