Please don’t underestimate the power of external confidence. This is actually a very important level of confidence. Let me explain: Your external confidence directly influences how you feel and your inner world. External confidence is all about how you walk, how you talk, the way you carry yourself, and so on. Now I’m going to deconstruct some specific aspects of an Eastern European woman’s external confidence which indicates her femininity.
Find the right hairstyle that suits you.
Modern psychology indicates that when someone meets you for the first time, they notice your hair first. No wonder Darren Hayes fell in love with his ex-wife because of her hair! 😉
Ideally, you need to consult with a high-end hair stylist so that you will know which hairstyle suits you. If you’d like to save some money, you may consult with the high-end hair stylist and then go to a cheaper salon to get that hairstyle.
Of course, it doesn’t mean you should only have one hairstyle for the rest of your life. In fact, it’s perfectly fine to change your hairstyle regularly so that you can experiment with something new.
Wear the best clothes that you can afford.
Psychologists point out that the second thing that people will notice when they meet you is your clothes. Even though this guide isn’t about how to impress other people, understanding people’s psychology is a part of effective communication. Hopefully this makes sense. 😉
Therefore, you would be well-advised to invest in some good clothes so that you can always feel like a million dollars. Buy some nice clothes when they are on sale. Consult with a personal fashion stylist and find out what type of clothes suits you. This educational investment will bring you benefits for decades, because you only need to consult the fashion stylist once and then you will know what kind of clothes you should buy – this will save you lots of money in the long term.
Next, I’ll show you how to build core confidence in a down-to-earth way:
Invest in yourself.
You must invest in your education regularly. This can be reading books, studying online programs, hiring coaches and mentors, and so forth. This strategy alone will make you feel very empowered.
Write your own affirmations.
You don’t have to read affirmations written in a book or on Instagram. As a matter of fact, it will be more effective if you write your own affirmations that you truly, deeply resonate with. For example, Krystal’s affirmation is “I’m a strong, confident Eastern European woman. Instead of sitting back and letting things happen to me, I go out and happen to things.”
Once you’ve written down your own affirmations, you’d better put them on the wall or on the fridge where you can see every single day. 😉
Be your own best friend.
Your best friend is yourself. Every morning, you can look at yourself in the mirror and say, “You and I are the dream team. I love you. Thank you.” Do this for 21 days, and you’ll notice the difference.
“Never say harsh things to yourself. If you wouldn’t say that to your best friend, you also shouldn’t say that to yourself. Be kind to yourself at all times. The stories that you tell yourself shape your personality which is literally your personal reality.”